Swinging is Great! But Do You Know The Pros and Cons of the Swinger Lifestyle?

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We all marvel at the prospect of enjoying the swinger lifestyle. Swinging among couples and marriage partners continues to be a rising trend all over the world. This is especially true for liberal couples who are willing to spice up their bedroom affairs. If you and your partner are looking to spice up your sex life then it might take more than the common whips and dildos. What you need is to try out swinging- don’t dismiss it until you try it. It might change your love life.

Although swinging is popular for those who want to inject some excitement in their marriage, it is not suitable for everyone. There are some things to keep in mind before traversing to this world as they may end up affecting your relationship. Here are some pros and cons of swinging.

The Pros

Brings excitement and reduces boredom

Of course we had to start with the good things that swinging will bring into your relationship. The first pro of swinging is that it will breathe a new lease of life into your relationship. It is quite easy for monotony to creep up into your bedroom encounters, especially after you have been at it for a couple of years.

In fact, the number one cause of many breakups and even divorce is a poor sex life. But this should no longer be a problem in the 21st century. Couples all over the world have been opting for this new trend and have been heading out to clubs and other establishments that are open to these activities. The internet has even made it easier to spice up your sexual relationship. Stop considering sex as a hobby or routine and give it the meaning it deserves. Swinging will give you the new verve that your bedroom needs.

Opens up communication

One of the best things about swinging is that it brings the topic of sex off the shelves and allows a couple to talk openly about their sexual desires. Once you broach the topic of swinging and agree to take a shot at it, you are likely to be more open. You will also have to discuss about your sexual life with another swinging couple and tell them your intimate desires. Is there anything that can be more loving than to have an honest conversation with your partner about your sexual fantasies? Having the ability to discuss such desires openly will not only deepen your love but also strengthens your relationship bond.

It lets you explore

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Whether you are in a new relationship or you are married, swinging is a great way to let you explore your fantasies. You will be able to explore different sexual fantasies while at the same time experimenting with different sexual partners. As you explore more sexual emotions and positions, you will be able to see your sexual life through a different prism. This will help give your partner a deep insight about you and what you enjoy while having intercourse.

Swinging will improve your sex life

It has been proven that swinging couple generally enjoy a better sex life than their monogamous partners. Swingers enjoy sex both in terms of the number of sexual plays that they engage in and the level of satisfaction that they derive from these plays. Statistics have revealed that swingers enjoy up to 30% more orgasms than those that do not engage in the practice. Sexologists recommend getting regular orgasms to help avoid a number of potential health problems. For example, an orgasm a week will keep cardiovascular diseases at bay as they balance the hormonal levels in your body.

The cons

Social stigma

Regardless of how you may enjoy swinging with other partners in your local city, there is still a lot of social stigma related to swinging in most parts of the world. What does this mean? This means that you will probably have to keep your swinging lifestyle a secret to avoid judgment from either family, friends or the society in general. There has been a lot of progress in the idea of swinging but you will still find people who do not embrace the practice.

Although this is wrong thinking, you are likely to find it everywhere you go. Some people will gladly remind you that swinging is cheating while others argue that it is immoral. Hiding this lifestyle from others is not really easy as having a double life will take both your time and effort. You will not have the time to maintain this secret life while at the same time working or addressing other family needs.

Jealousy and fear

It is easy to downplay the possible effects of a swinger lifestyle especially in relation to how the partners will feel about each other over time. Feelings of jealousy are likely to arise if a partner starts thinking that their lover is giving more attention to another person. Also, one partner is likely to fear that the other swinging couple is better at sex than they are.

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The key to ensuring that this is kept to its minimum is by having control. You should first ensure that you offer emotional exclusivity to your lover even if you are swinging. Make him or her feel that they are the most important person in your life despite swinging with other couples. This is quite important, especially to women who may feel jealous when they think they are in a competition with another woman.

Disagreements

Another con of participating in the swinger lifestyle is that its easy to have disagreements with your partner. Before you venture into swinging, please ensure that your lover is in on it. You are likely to find a partner who decides to swing just because they want to make their lovers happy but this is often the genesis of all troubles in your relationship.

For such lovers, the rules created in the swinging relationship are more likely to be made out of balancing the happiness and fears of the lovers. This often leads to feelings of resentment in the relationship. Never forget that honest and open communication is the foundation of a great swinging relationship.

There are a lot of benefits of swinging but it is important to also take note of the possible challenges that you may face. It is important to have great communication between you and your lover for you to have a successful swinging relationship. You are less likely to enjoy swinging if your partner does not even have a clue on what it is. The pros and cons will help you have a clue on what to expect when swinging.