All About Your Kinky Fetish That You Probably Didn’t Know Of

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When you read or hear the phrase kinky fetish notions of whips, padded cuffs, gags, black shiny leather body suits and complex body contraptions installed on a massive bed are what would come to most minds. Well, if so, your head is in the right place but that is not all there is when talking about a kinky fetish.

First, you basically need to understand that kink and fetish are two different terms and even though they are commonly used interchangeably they are actually not the same thing. So in categories of individuals with unconventional sexual behavior you may; be kinky, have a fetish or you have a kinky fetish. Whichever category you belong to it is important to understand extensively the aspects of such unconventional sexual behavior. Especially with the versatility and repercussions of pleasure and sometimes pain in this path of sexual adventure.

This article compiles various aspects in terms of research and revelations of different individuals pertaining to kinky fetishes to enlighten you on things you may not know about yourself and/or your partner when it comes to bedroom behavior.

What is The Difference Between Kink and Fetish?

Most people use these two terms interchangeably by applying one to mean the other while being under the impressions that they are synonyms. English lessons aside, however, there are subtle differences that make significant distinctions in the manner in which how and when they are applied for sexual pleasure.

Kink entails the addition of new features to what would be considered the traditional sexual activity, usually in a bid to enhance intimacy among sexual partners. There is a wide variety of kinky which could range from licking sauce from your partner’s body to dressing up as The Avengers characters and role-playing your own version of a scene from the movie as foreplay. The key factor to consider when describing kinky is that it is secondary to the sexual encounter, induced to spice up the sexual encounter for the individuals involved.

A fetish, on the other hand, entails a sexual individual that is specifically aroused by either an object, action, role play or even body part. That may range from feet sucking, bondage, voyeurism, the smell of leather, the sound of birds, cosplay, accents and so on. The key aspect of a fetish is that it is primary to the sexual encounter and therefore without its induction, there may be no sexual satisfaction or no sex at all.

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It is important to note that kinky sex is meant to help partners explore new horizons in their sexual experience and would, therefore, need at least two sexual partners to tango. Whereas, a fetish functions to arouse an individual sexually which therefore means that it does not necessarily require two sexual partners to indulge it. That means that a fetish can be applied while masturbating and still achieve a significant level of sexual satisfaction.

So How About A Kinky Fetish?

A kinky fetish is, therefore, a situation where you combine the two basically. “But how?” you ask. Well, in the event that you establish that you have a particular fetish say bondage (which is a common fetish under the BDSM umbrella), consenting sexual partners can spice it up with some flogging to inflict pain which would form the kinky aspect of the kinky fetish. In such a scenario, the bondage fetish initiates arousal among the partners as a dominant binds the submissive. When they get to flogging, the pain inflicted in the height of sexual stimulation enhances sexual sensation and therefore improves sexual satisfaction and all-out orgasms.

What You Probably Didn’t Know

It is a common notion that sexual fetishes and kinky sexual activity is frowned upon. This is actually an accurate idea if you focus on the rather traditional voices of sexual behavior. Stigma is not uncommon reaction when a kinky fetish is placed on the table. However, times are changing and more and more people are opening up about their kinky fetishes.

You are Not Alone

Thanks to the internet, there are avenues in the form of websites that connect people with their sexual soulmates. Today one can browse through the internet and find thousands of websites, committed specifically sharing kinky fetish ideas, hooking up individuals with coinciding kinky fetishes and forming kinky fetish communities. If you are part of the group then there is a community of like-minded individuals out there interested in what your kinky fetish is and how to explore it in fun and interesting ways just a click away.

According to recent studies including one by Cristian Joyal, (a sex researcher) conducted on 1,040 Canadians; a lot more people have paraphilic desires and behaviors than those who care to openly admit it. Christian was able to establish that voyeurism, masochism, fetishism, and frotteurism are the most common fetishes among sexually active men and women. In his study;

  • Voyeurism which entails sexual arousal gained from spying on others while they have sex was the highest at 35%.
  • Fetishism was second at 26% which involves being sexually aroused by objects such as leather, dolls and so on.
  • Frotteurism shared the second position also at 26% which is about rubbing one's genitalia against a non-consenting person for sexual stimulation.
  • Masochism was the fourth most popular sex fetish at 19% which entails getting aroused by being in pain, usually inflicted by their partner.

Thought you should know that Christian also established through his research that more men than women are interested in paraphilic fetishes.

By Admin, Last Updated: FEB. 10, 2019