9 BDSM Dating Sites That Let You Enjoy the Kinky Fetish Side of Life

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The rise of online dating and hookup sites (as well as apps) makes it easier than ever to find authentic fetish sites, kinky dating sites, BDSM sites and more. In fact, there are almost too many options and because most are membership based (or provide the best experience to paid members), it is helpful to know just how to go about choosing the best fetish sites possible.

The good news is that we have done the work for you and offer a list of the nine best fetish sites, including those that would work as kinky dating sites or BDSM sites if that is your thing.

Before we look at the best fetish sites, though, it’s important that you take some time to be clear about what you want. For example, are you a single or part of a couple? There are kinky dating sites for you. What is your fetish? Keep in mind that BDSM sites are not the same as fetish sites, and if you are a more “classic” fetish fan (i.e. you appreciate specific objects or situations) or you are less open about your desire for fetish dating, it helps to know that ahead of time.

Why? The world of kinky dating sites is vast, and you’ll get overwhelmed quickly. Most sites offer lots of visuals, lots of information and lots of fellow members eager to make the most of every moment spent on their preferred BDSM sites, fetish sites or kinky dating sites.

So, take some time, think about what you want and what you want others to know about you, and then use that to build effective profiles on the sites or apps you choose.

Getting Started with Kink, BDSM and Fetish Sites and Apps

As noted, there are many kink, fetish sites and BDSM sites, but below are nine that are rated as the very best for those serious about this lifestyle choice:

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Alt.com

Easily the top spot for anyone eager to find kink, fetish or BDSM dating. Designed for singles and couples with clearly defined interests or desires, it is a site designed to help you find compatible people. It can bring you together in chat rooms or via messaging but is also where you can arrange real world experiences.

There are millions of paid members and signing up for your account is easy. Just be as accurate and honest on the profile as possible (Note: It can take time to fill out all of the answers) and you will soon find yourself interacting with like-minded people.

Special features of the paid memberships include your hotlist of people you are interested in and that are interested in you. Cupid’s Report lets you see all of your matches, and you can see who has viewed your page.

Paid members can broadcast live videos and the video features works with private chat rooms, too.

There are three membership options – free, silver or gold. We don’t suggest the free option as it is too limited. The paid options give you the unlimited access you want, along with access to blogs, group chats and more. You can also use the site to host your own blog, access the enormous library of fetish and BDSM videos and more.

As a site that links into the alternative sex community, and with an enormous membership base of very active members, you really can’t go wrong here. The material at the site is quite explicit, and you can feel free to use the terms that best describe your ideal experiences. It is likely that you’ll find active groups, chats, forums and blogs that discuss your interests, and which put you in touch with others eager to learn more.

AdultFriendFinder

This is not a fetish-specific site but is one of the largest places for meeting open-minded people looking for real world or online experiences. As noted, you need to be clear in your profile that you want BDSM, kink or fetish experiences – and explain them to get more attention!

Touted as a sex and swinger community, it has tens of millions of registered accounts and in less than one minute, you can be registered and looking for fetish dates and more. Naturally, your good bio enhances your options and attracts those eager to share the experiences you crave.

BDSM.com

In the world of fetish websites, this one can authentically be said to address them all. Whether you are interested in humiliation, bondage, masochism, or anything else, you will find a safe community in which to talk about and live out your fantasies.

Meet others interested in authentic BDSM experiences identical to your own wishes, chat with them or message them directly. Groups have names that help you find just what you want including dominatrixes, housewives, and more. There are more than 300 groups online at any given time (and over 30k in the site) and your paid membership gives you access to every feature.

Enrolling in the site gives you access to member profiles, chatrooms, group forums and all of the other areas of the site. With it, you can message and do in-depth searches to find like-minded fetish daters. Part of the same group as Alt.com, you will need separate memberships to use both, but it is probably worth it if you are determined to find kinky dates for your specific fetish.

BDSMDate.com

A bit unique in the kinky dating work, this is a bisexual dating site with a special emphasis on fetishes. It is an ideal spot for the kinky dating enthusiasts or those interested in a fetish hookup. This is a safe and non-judgmental site and uses a very streamlined design.

Sign up in three simple steps (taking about 10 minutes to complete) and get the most from the paid membership. With it, you access video introductions, live streams and upload access. You can use all of the chat rooms to share ideas or arrange dates and create or use blogs to share your fantasies with others. There is a “near you” search to help you find hookups and even an online store with all kinds of gear.

Fetlife.com

Many people interested in kinky dating say that this site is like social media for fetish fans. It covers every imaginable fetish and has a welcoming environment where you can talk about your desires and fantasies. Signing up for a free membership is easy, and you don’t have to give out a lot of information.

Instead, you can supply details directly with those who interest you. Join one of the groups and discuss your wishes, look up any events in the area or where you might be traveling, make or read different blogs and build a private library of favorite images and videos. This is like Facebook for fetishes and is a great free tool for exploring this lifestyle.

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LadyBoyKisses.com

One of the largest global crossdresser dating sites for men or women who like their men to dress up as women! Most of the membership (around 75%) is male, but the remaining membership is female. With multiple membership options, it lets you build a network of contacts, find matches anywhere in the world, and get all kinds of information about this particular fetish. You can look at galleries of images, videos and more. This site is more about matching and even matrimony, but it is also ideal if you want to flirt, chat or meet like-minded people from anywhere in the world.

Fetish.com

This is a site that can be a perfect resource for those who are eager to interact online with open and like minded people. Dynamic chat room and messaging options are easy to use and available as soon as you join. Find events in all locations, do searches for people in your area, build a good profile and start participating in forums and chats. They have an online magazine with all kinds of information and even if you are not yet prepared to act out your fantasies, you’ll find them accepted and encouraged through this wide-ranging site.

BDSMSingles.com

Rather than offering options for couples, this site focuses on the singles eager to explore a fetish. An easy to use site, it has a ton of great options. There is a Black Book that lets you share information, images and message. You can use the Rapid Match to find your ideal partners, and paid members get access to webcam videos, chat rooms and forums.

If you are new to bdsm dating websites or you want to find like minded locals, a paid membership on this site is likely to help you make your fantasies a reality fairly easily.

Fetster.com

Another social networking site for those eager to begin fetish dating, this one lets you sign up entirely for free and build an in-depth and searchable profile. Find others with similar interests, search by age, weight, sexual preferences, and more. You can share videos with other members and participate in community groups, blogs, forums, event listings and more. Most users are also verified, so you know you get the real thing!

You now have nine different and unique places to go to begin to get your kink on, and whether you stay online or go real-world, you’ll find each of the sites above is a great option. Some are entirely free and ideal if you want to just discuss your fantasies and desires!

By Admin, Last Updated: JAN. 20, 2019